Cupid Calm DownWednesday, February 15, 2017
Got someone to love? Great! Need to re-learn how to love yourself? Come on, over!
This post is inspired by my own self-improvement process. Also, my sweet mom had asked if I’d updated my blog with new content. She made my heart melt. Thank you, mama!
It is LOVE day, so everyone get ready for some massive good loving you’re going to get which I’m about to unleash in this post. When I was younger, I had quite a tough time separating my own emotions from other people’s so much so that I absorbed theirs and felt overwhelmed. Negative emotions in particular drained me and when I had my own low-vibration emotions to deal, starting from after puberty due to some life event, I didn’t learn how to deal. They kind of festered and never quite got released until about the end of last year. You’d think that after years of living on earth, I would have learned to deal much earlier but life does take its time and I have a genuine appreciation of the process.
What I learn is that it’s a game of futility when you run away from tough emotions. Don’t avoid them. These things that go berserk in the realm of your mind are there for a reason. Even the closest person that you think may have your best interest at heart will not GET your process. It's not their job to get it. Understand that, now. As an adult.
They can be your parents or your significant apples of your heart. Now that I’m older, I understand that our guardians can only do so much and this is heavily influenced by the way they see/live life which is then dependent upon so many other factors. They are not perfect. Late last year, I made the decision to own up to every emotion I had. It made me feel closer to the teen that I was who seethed in quiet depression. It made me understand HER. I see HER in other people and I do my best to practise compassion directed to myself and other people’s journeys. We are made of the same stuff but our natural make-up and the external variables we’re exposed to can be very different. So, what works for one, may not work for another. Please take a moment out of your life, to truly GET yourself.
I think the film Inside Out captured this idea beautifully though when I'd watched it, something in me brewed in bitterness and resentment. I understood it mentally but I played the game of comparison. For goodness’ sake, it was an animation, but that was how strong the unresolved emotions that boiled beneath. I made peace with them, on the daily for months last year. If something in me comes up, I practise ‘allowing’ so that it gets diffused by itself.
Another thing I want to put out is to gently let go of chronic identification with what the mind spews especially when it gets volatile. This has reduced with time and I feel so much lighter and blessed to be in the position to be aware of the gradual letting go or old, rusty chains. I already mentioned this about a bazillion times and I'll say it again. Sen’s articles on befriending the mind has tremendously helped me with my self-improvement journey. It’s also catalyzed by a few deep friendships made along the way.
Writing about this process on the blog is a way for me to highlight the little things that stand out in my journey to becoming authentically me. I can only hope that it helps someone, somewhere who has reached a corner where he or she is seeking for an honest answer to this question: What Is My Life? When you’re ready to let go of all of the things you think you know about yourself, then I invite you to join me in the journey and go read up the blog I mentioned!
If it doesn’t do much to help you, then it’s okay, the Internet is way HUGE to get stuck on one virtual space.
Happy Valentine’s to you. I take this opportunity to wish you, my loyal readers (and the new ones), pure LOVE and more importantly, to realize that you are already it so cupid can please take a seat, place its bare-bottom down (why is he always in various states of undress?) and take a chill pill so YOU can do the real work!
As always, a quote to touch your beating heart, this time by Nhat Hanh:
“To be beautiful means to be yourself.You don't need to be accepted by others. You need to accept yourself. When you are born a lotus flower, be a beautiful lotus flower, don't try to be a magnolia flower. If you crave acceptance and recognition and try to change yourself to fit what other people want you to be, you will suffer all your life. True happiness and true power lie in understanding yourself, accepting yourself, having confidence in yourself.”
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